Speaking Out!

Looking my age
Wed, 2012-10-31 19:09

Sometimes we come across women’s health issues that are simply crying out for a response, be they from the world of research, from popular media, or from the experiences of individual women. At the CWHN we decided to create a space for that response here on our website, and to invite guest commentaries from people with health knowledge and expertise who are willing to speak out and get "To the point" about some of these issues. Watch this space for informed guest columns with a new topic every month. And let us know what you think by writing to us at cwhn@cwhn.ca.


To the Point - Guest column

By Abby Lippman

Nora Ephron felt bad about her neck; Shari Graydon edited a collection about women who "feel great about [their] hands." (Read the review). Connecting their reflections about body parts is how both explore the experience of aging for women.
 
Now, while it's still not at all clear to me why my neck or hands should matter in who I am or how others see me—despite all social pressures to the contrary—the commercial opportunities to keep anatomy from being women's destiny are quite apparent. And increasingly problematic.
 
 Among the latest—and in sharp contrast with the upbeat title of Graydon's book—are what are billed as "tips to prevent premature aging of the hands" aimed at "busy moms." Age spots and loss of volume are the targets for change by a growing list of interventions. Some are just common sense for ALL hands (wear gloves when washing dishes; use hand cream), but others, more intensive, propose to do for hands what is already done for faces and breasts (e.g., inject fillers to add volume), perhaps using fat removed during a liposuction treatment to "rebuild the lost shape" of the hand. This isn't quite the kind of recycling environmentalists encourage, but who knows? Perhaps a human handfill is ecologically wiser than dumping more into already worrisome landfills, polluting the environment.
 
 Anyway, it's both a this new approach and the rather cavalier way in which it's being promoted that raised particular alarms for me. First bell rang when I read an endorsement of “fractionated laser treatment” by a physicians' society, and another rang when I saw a full page story about it in the Globe and Mail a day or two later. This new tool for rejuvenating older women uses laser beams to target "small sections of the deep layers of the skin," with treatment needing to be repeated from two to six times to be effective. For reasons that are not explained, the American Academy of Dermatology seems to give a strong thumbs up to this "aesthetic technology."
 
This laser technology isn't just for hands, though, and likely this is behind the huge increase in its use reported by another professional society of physicians, this one the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (Globe & Mail, 25 August 2012). In fact, this group is using the approach to "resurface" faces by aiming the laser light deep into the skin to stimulate collagen while, at the same time, removing surface skin tissue. Goodbye (maybe) wrinkles and crow's feet without the puffed look Botox gives—if one can pay at least $400 per treatment (and a series is needed each time) with "maintenance visits" every six to 12 months. But hello swelling and redness afterwards, with possible burning and serious damage if the lasering is too intense.
 
This is called a "non-invasive" treatment, but this does seem to be a rather loose and problematic expansion of the term. It certainly seems “invasive” to me even if nothing is cut open. But worse: do hands or faces really need to be resurfaced like streets and highways? Cracks and crevices in the latter are really dangerous for pedestrians, bike riders, and drivers and demand immediate repair; the cracks and spots on my skin don't quite seem to have this need for attention, urgent or otherwise. So why are physicians so eager to apply this new toy to women? And do we need still to make aging seem such a horrible fate for women?
 
Some of this need-creation stems from greed. The technology may be expensive for physicians to buy, but it's more than likely to be a short-term outlay with great profit potential when sold to women told they need the latest tuck, fix, or fill to keep them looking younger than their birth certificates would indicate. Alice Dreger, who usually writes things I wish I’d written myself, took on the issue of physicians as cosmeticians three years ago and called for medicine to have a "declaration of independence from cosmetic procedures." (Hastings Center Bioethics Forum, 6 July 2009). Her call for doctors to stick to dealing with a woman's health and not her looks, with a special concern for when physicians become entrepreneurial merchants selling us cosmetic interventions in the name of medical treatments, doesn't seem to have been heeded. And aging women just continue to be vilified.
 
 Does it really matter that I have wrinkles, a saggy bottom, or patchy pigmented spots on my hands? Or that I see a drooping chin and eyelids when I look in the mirror?  Why isn't the statement, "you don't look your age," problematic and condemned as ageist? Would we be as accepting to be told—or even hear someone say about another, “you really don't look Black” (or disabled, or queer, or poor)? Wouldn't we immediately recognize this as the racist (ableist, homophobic, classist) statement it is?
 
 In their book on old women and aging, Look Me in the Eye, a book that should be on everyone's shelves, Barbara Macdonald and Cynthia Rich refer to old women who do all they can to make others not think about their age as trying to "pass." And they wisely note that "passing—except  as a consciously political tactic for carefully limited purposes—is one of the most serious threats to selfhood." Physicians selling and women buying allegedly anti-aging technologies are usefully seen from this perspective—as threats to our selfhoods.
 
 My hands, like those of many women, have become knobbier with age and stiffer to bend. Rings I used to love wearing on several fingers of both hands all at the same time now sit in boxes waiting to be recycled as dangles on a chain around my wrinkly neck or as brooches to be worn on a jacket draped on my curving shoulders—or just given to others with straighter fingers to enjoy. I'd like to think of the intricately patterned veins on the back of my hands as some ever-changing abstract body art, a kind of natural tattoo, perhaps.
 
 Of course there are aspects of aging, especially for marginalized women and women without privileges and power, that DO demand and warrant interventions: safe housing, financial resources, primary healthcare, universal design of places, spaces, and things, for example. But these aren't pretences to stop aging but, rather, to make it possible and respectful for all women.
 
If aging really is about hands, it should be about the women in manicure salons using highly toxic products known to be harmful to health to attach fake nails on customers. These women, mostly—if not totally—non-unionized and without proper regulatory systems to ensure the products they use are handled in safe ways, warrant our concern much more than any spots on a hand to which they will glue some glitzy nails. And if aging is at all about necks: then let's admire the older women who stick theirs out and fight for reproductive and social justice.

Abby Lippman is a longtime feminist activist with special interests in women's health and women's health policies. Also an academic based at McGill University and passionate about writing, Abby is past president of the CWHN, and is now on the board of the FQPN where she works closely with them in building an inclusive reproductive justice movement in Québec.

To the point

Raising sexually healthy children – Part 1
Fri, 2012-10-26 00:25

The CWHN is happy to introduce to those who don’t already know her, Lyba Spring, a sexual health educator who spent nearly 30 years with Toronto Public Health. Working in schools with children and teens, counselling in a sexual health clinic, giving workshops, university lectures and doing guest spots on TV, Lyba has addressed every aspect of sexuality from safer sex and gender identity, to raising sexually healthy children and female ejaculation.  From sex workers and principals, to staff in long term care facilities, she has worked with them all—in English, French and Spanish.

Lyba will be blogging for us every two weeks on a range of topics relating to women and sexual health. She welcomes your feedback and suggestions

We think Lyba is a treasure. We hope you will, too.

You can contact Lyba at: springtalks1@gmail.com


Information provided by the CWHN is not a substitute for professional medical advice. If you feel you need medical attention, please see your health care provider.


By Lyba Spring

In workshops, when we ask parents when sexuality education should begin, they often answer  “age 10, 12 or more.” But it doesn’t take long before someone in the group will point out that it’s much too late. With some girls beginning puberty at age seven, and sexual images at every turn, we need to reconsider.

Sexuality begins at birth; even in the womb a male fetus will have erections. The moment a baby is born and held, the lessons have begun. “Someone who loves me is holding me. I like getting my back stroked. Is that a nipple in my mouth?  Oh, heaven.”

Changing a baby, we talk to them. This is a great time to start using dictionary words for their genitals such as penis and vulva instead of wiener and flower. Building a vocabulary opens the door to communication about sexuality as they grow.

A six-month-old is likely to discover their genitals. How parents react to this may vary greatly; but the message needs to be clearly thought out. If you say, “Don’t touch!” you are telling them it is not okay to have access to that part of their body, and that the pleasure they feel is not okay. If you let them explore, they are learning about the pleasures of the body, and that every part belongs to them. There will be time for them to learn that it’s not okay to have that pleasure in the supermarket.

They may accept their gender, which is congruent with the way they look, or they may not. Current research suggests that parents/guardians should take the lead from the child when there is dramatic variation in their gender behaviour.

Sexual exploration (playing house, doctor, etc.) with other children often starts around age three. It is very common. Some parents/guardians wonder about the difference between expected and unexpected sexual exploration. For those who were sexually abused as children, they may feel even more protective. An important message is that there should never be any secret touching. Children also need to know that if they have that “uh-oh” feeling, they need to tell you. If a child reports unusual sexual behaviour with another child or with someone older that concerns you, call your local child protection agency for advice. (See: www.boostforkids.org for more information.)

By this age, children are also asking questions. The rule of thumb is: answer what they ask in age appropriate terms. Include your parental message along with the factual information. For example, an answer to, “What are balls for?” may be, “They’re called testicles. They make sperm. When you grow up, if you want to make a baby, that’s what you’d need.” 

You may also want to find out what they already know. So when a child asks where babies come from, you may want to ask, “Where do you think they come from?” and work with their information.

If an older child asks, “When can I have sex?” your answer may be rooted in simple physiological facts, your religious values or your personal politics.

In part two, I’ll write about some key issues for children up to nine and then some more for children going through puberty. Do you have any good ideas to share?  Send me an e-mail at: springtalks1@gmail.com

Spring Talks Sex

Spring Talks Sex - NEW blog
Wed, 2012-10-17 12:15

The CWHN is happy to introduce to those who don’t already know her, Lyba Spring, a sexual health educator who spent nearly 30 years with Toronto Public Health. Working in schools with children and teens, counselling in a sexual health clinic, giving workshops, university lectures and doing guest spots on TV, Lyba has addressed every aspect of sexuality from safer sex and gender identity, to raising sexually healthy children and female ejaculation.  From sex workers and principals, to staff in long term care facilities, she has worked with them all—in English, French and Spanish.

Lyba will be blogging for us every two weeks on a range of topics relating to women and sexual health. She welcomes your feedback and suggestions

We think Lyba is a treasure. We hope you will, too.

You can contact Lyba at: springtalks1@gmail.com


Information provided by the CWHN is not a substitute for professional medical advice. If you feel you need medical attention, please see your health care provider.



By Lyba Spring
After nearly 30 years working as a sexual health educator in the public sector for Toronto Public Health, I realized that I wanted to “keep a hand in” after retirement. But posting medical articles on my professional Facebook page to help keep former colleagues up to date has not been enough. Although I have continued to do media work and present at the occasional conference, the need to make a difference remains unsatisfied. 

I became a feminist in 1968 in what was then called the Women’s Liberation Movement. Women’s sexuality was very political—and still is. The recent dust-up over an American politician’s ignorant remarks on rape and abortion got me posting and tweeting more than ever. The Canadian MP looking for the back door into recriminalizing abortion reminded me how important it is to be vigilant.

Although every aspect of sexual health is political, some are just fascinating to discuss: raising sexually healthy children, adolescent sexual health, romantic and sexual relationships, pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), gender and orientation issues, late blooming boomers, seniors’ sexual health—all the beautiful and not so beautiful aspects of our sexuality—and who’s in control of it.

The World Health Organization definition of sexual health underlines the fact that sexuality crosses the lifespan.  Our sexual selves start with erections in the womb or a baby’s vagina lubricating at birth; it moves from the exploration of one’s genitals in that first year, to deliberate self pleasuring during puberty; from gender confusion to gender clarity; from attractions as a child to lustful desire in adolescence; from admonishments about safer sex from home and school, to the realization that we can have some control over our sexual expression; from sexual abuse or sexual assault to healing; from initial intimacy to longer relationships; from the desire for parenting to raising a child; from coupledom to singledom; from sexual maturity to sexual seniority; from ability to reduced ability; or from disability to full sexual expression...

I want to talk with you about any and every aspect of our sexual selves, starting with a piece on raising sexually healthy children.  While I take interest in the broader issues, like reproductive technologies or hormone replacement therapies, I will keep my focus narrow. For articles on the broader issues, see the rest of this site; or visit my Facebook page.

This is where you come in. If you have a comment about any of my blog articles, please send it to:  springtalks1@gmail.com.

More importantly, if there are other topics you want to discuss, let me know at the above link. I won’t be responding to any personal questions, but I would like to write about what interests you. I would like to include some of your comment(s) in my upcoming blogs.  

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Spring Talks Sex